So your dog pulls on a leash – and your first reaction?
Control. Restrict. Dominate.
Let’s call it “bad behavior.”
Let’s resist it, correct it, and make it stop.
Unfortunately, that’s the standard reaction many dog parents have.
Except… that’s not training. That’s disconnection.
Dogs NEVER pull on a leash to annoy us.
They usually pull to meet needs we’re not meeting by default.
They have no other choice, and no other way to communicate those needs.
Dog parents think that pulling is a form of reactivity to a trigger. It could be, but more often than not, it’s actually the result of unmet needs.
Here’s what your dog is really saying every time that leash goes tight.
“I desperately need to sniff.”
I don’t get enough time to sniff everywhere, explore, and understand my world.
Every scent tells me who’s been here, what happened, whether it’s safe, exciting, or new.
You’re nose-blind. I’m not.
In fact, my nose is my main compass, my social media feed, my stress relief, and my therapy all-in-one.
When you rush me to walk, or yank me away from a spot I need to sniff, it’s like you’re saying,
“Shut up and stop reading your favorite book halfway through.”
The solution:
Let me sniff.
Anywhere I want. And for as long as I need.
Not just the sidewalk corner you approve of – everywhere.
Sniffing isn’t optional.
It’s my nervous system regulation. it’s how I learn about my environment, and feel safe in it.
“I need to walk faster.”
You walk like you’re browsing a museum, while talking on the phone or even texting.
I walk like I’ve just been released into Disneyland.
I have energy to burn, excitement to release, and curiosity to satisfy.
But instead, you slow me down, hold me back, and expect me to act like a robot.
You want me calm? Then let me move.
The solution:
I can’t go outside on my own, so this is my walk, not yours.
Match my pace.
Let me stretch my legs, feel my body, and enjoy my freedom. That doesn’t mean sprinting – just flow with me.
You need this as much as I do.
“I need to explore, and walk freely.”
I can’t walk the same sad block every day.
The same smells. The same sights. The same boring loop.
You call it a “walk.” To me, it’s a prison route.
I need to see something new.
Different trees, different sounds, different textures.
That’s what keeps my brain alive and my heart full.
The solution:
Follow me.
Let’s wander.
Let’s take new turns.
Let me take you somewhere new.
This isn’t your walk. It’s mine.
“I need to greet this person or that dog.”
I’m a social butterfly. I was born this way, and I can’t change it.
I love connections and interactions.
I see someone interesting, and I want to say hi – not because I’m out of control, but because I’m friendly.
You avoid everyone like they carry bad vibes. Then you expect me to do the same, like I’m some antisocial robot.
Not letting me greet others turns connection into frustration, and frustration turns into reactivity.
The solution:
Let me socialize.
Let me sniff another dog’s butt.
Let me say hi to the human I like.
It only takes ten seconds – and it fills my emotional tank for the whole day.
“I need to eat this thing on the ground.”
I see something that smells delicious, and I go for it.
My body knows what it needs better than your human brain does.
If I’m obsessed with finding random snacks, dirt, or grass, it’s because I’m missing something in my diet.
Have you ever thought of that?
You expect me to eat the same dirt bag you call “kibbles.” All day, every day. Can you?
The solution:
Watch which food I’m going for. Then give me the clean, safe version of what I crave.
And if you ever want me to drop something, then offer me something better in return.
I’m desperate for food that I never get, even when it’s gone bad, because I’m so deprived.
“I try to get your attention to engage with me.”
I want you to see and enjoy my world.
I want you to get excited about what I find interesting.
But I get the exact opposite.
I feel so lonely on my walks with you.
Not only am I deprived of getting my core needs met on the walk, but you are also so lost in your own mind that you forget that I’m even there.
This is our walk together. It’s the only quality time I get to have with you.
Yet you ignore me completely. you are always busy with your stupid phone, or chatting with your human friend.
You never chat with me.
When you talk to me, it’s only to give me orders and correct what you think I’m doing wrong according to your broken lens.
The solution:
My walk is not a chore.
I deserve quality time with you, like everyone else.
Engage with me on the walk.
Join my world for a change.
This is our date. Make it so.
“If pulling is acceptable to you, then it’s acceptable to me.”
You pull on me all the time.
You drag me when I need to pause.
You steer me like I’m an object instead of a partner.
And then you’re shocked when I pull you sometimes?
That’s not a leash issue. That’s a communication issue.
You don’t want me to pull? Then stop pulling me.
The solution:
Start listening.
Match my rhythm, my pauses, and meet my needs on the walk.
Let’s move together, not against each other.
Because you’re not walking a possession, you’re walking a soul.
Final Thoughts
Leash pulling is a conversation you’re not hearing.
When you slow down, observe, and actually let your dog express themselves, you’ll realize:
They’re not trying to control you. They’re trying to communicate with you.
Every tug, every pause, every sudden stop is a message.
The only question is: Are you finally ready to listen?
If this made you see leash pulling in a completely different way…
Pulling isn’t a training failure. It’s a deprivation signal. When your dog’s needs for movement, exploration, connection, and agency aren’t met, the leash becomes the only place they can protest. In my 1:1 dog behavior breakthrough session, I help dog parents rebuild walks so your dog is no longer starved for freedom, stimulation, or presence, and pulling naturally dissolves instead of being fought.
I’m a holistic dog trainer based in Vancouver, offering hands-on sessions and deeper training programs in person and online for dog parents ready to transform walks from lonely control drills into shared, fulfilling experiences.
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